Our relationships are born from our creative space. Our sacral chakra, sex chakra, chakra #2, svadhisthana chakra. Whatever you want to name this energy space in the body, it's there, right above your navel.
Often, we enter relationships based on our own personal projections of what we want. It’s translucent, it’s passing, it’s our own version of events.
All relationships are like an arm wrestle. Both parties at times just happy pushing against each other, perfectly aligned in the middle, no push, no struggle. Then suddenly BOOM! One person gets stronger, and their crushing weight makes the other become weak. The opposing muscle that once held the relationship in balance has begun to tremble and shake under pressure. This weakening of a relationship starts the lethal cracks which, if not resolved, can defeat a relationship.
So instead of entering each relationship from a space of “what do I want?”, why not enter it with the thought of “what can I give?" We might even find that each relationship is healthier from this space. A space of karma. Giving not to receive but giving for the love of giving.
When I look at all my current relationships, each of them is based on this exact point. Giving to the other, not to receive anything back, but because we want to give to one another. And simply because we love each other.
The point of loving another person. Anyone – family, friends, partners. Love is something that happens, as you create your space with the other person.
Love is formed inside the self, if you give to a relationship, not take, love can be created from the wholesome, nourished space of truly giving of the self. Because in turn, we are giving to ourselves.
This is how I believe we make friends and acquaintances. An acquaintance is like a business deal. You both know that you are entering the relationship for a particular purpose, you are both looking to take something from your relationship, and once the deal is done. It’s complete. You both go on your merry way.
But our friends are people we hold in our hearts, people we love, admire, and of course find the balance of giving and receiving.
When you want to think, look, and truly be in relationships, don’t take. Give. After all, stable relationships should always be about what we can give, not what we can take. Or maybe you will end up with a lot of acquaintances at the end of your body's existence.
“The best relationships - talk like best friends, play like children, argue like husband and wife, protect each other like siblings”
~ Unknown ~
Final words from Tara
To my Newcastle teacher, take some time to work on the relationship with yourself and bring your best self to your students by joining my 15hr YTT Refresher course taking place on 7th & 8th May.